Here are the 5 love languages given by Gary Chapman :
Words of Affirmation
Acts of Service
Receiving Gifts
Quality Time
Physical Touch
Do you know your child's love language?
Penelope is three and a half and it is extremely noticeable that words of affirmation is her top love language, followed closely by physical touch. Penny can wake up in a sour mood and all it takes are some compliments and a mini back-rub to turn her day around.
Children need love, lots and lots of love.
I think it's very important that children are shown love in a variety of ways.
But if you can pinpoint how they receive it best, do that love language most!
Words of Affirmation
- compliments
- encouragement
- positive reinforcement
- cautious of speaking in harsh tones
Acts of Service
- doing the tasks they can't do for themselves (when they're older do tasks for them that they have learned to do for themselves, but don't enable laziness)
- helping them practice sports, flash cards for tests, instruments, etc.
- teaching them the importance of serving others
- fix broken toys, sew buttons/tears/rips on clothing
Receiving Gifts
- homemade cards (spend time on a nice picture or words)
- small/inexpensive trinkets
- well thought out large/expensive gifts
- items from nature (rocks, leaves, etc.)
Quality Time
- Go on a one-on-one date
- Read books, make crafts, adventure outside, play
- Put away distractions, get on their level, and just BE with them (for at least a half hour)
- Ask open-ended questions to encourage conversation
Physical Touch
- hugs
- hand on shoulder
- hold hands
- back/foot/hand rubs
Us parents have the difficult task of shaping and raising future generations.
Thankfully, the Beatles make it sound easy when they say, "all you need is love."
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| They still bring up this "magical adventure meal" when they got to eat in the window seat because we sold our dining table. |
Love well, friends!
Love well!
Love well!
